Related By Chance, Family By Choice: Bond between mother and son
Can a mother-in-law and her new daughter-in-law ever have the chance to get along and have a good relationship?Author Deb DeArmond tells us in her new book “Related By Chance, Family by Choice” that this is indeed possible.
Most of the conflicts experienced by both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law stems from the mother’s strong love for her child. There’s a powerful bond between mother and son and it’s hard for the older woman to simply let the son go and be with his wife. She has been raising her child for a long time and now another woman will simply take him away from her. Unfortunately, whenever the older woman tries to reclaim her son, the more both the son and her wife goes further away from her.
Fortunately, both women don’t need to fight for this important man of their lives and work for a better relationship instead. In her book, DeArmond uses practical advice and help from the Bible which can help create a harmonious relationship between the two women. She cites the story of Ruth and Naomi whose relationship lasted even though Naomi’s son has already passed away. By constantly relying on one another, Ruth was able to find employment and another husband as well.
As a mother of three sons, DeArmond added both her personal and practical knowledge about building the relationship between the two women into the book. The book covers various subjects such as the perceptions of both women, how strained communication affects their relationship and even the roles of both sons and fathers in their lives.
Related By Chance, Family By Choice