Related By Chance, Family By Choice: Bond between mother and son
Can a mother-in-law and her new daughter-in-law ever have the chance to get along and have a good relationship?Author Deb DeArmond tells us in her new book “Related By Chance, Family by Choice” that this is indeed possible.
Most of the conflicts experienced by both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law stems from the mother’s strong love for her child. There’s a powerful bond between mother and son and it’s hard for the older woman to simply let the son go and be with his wife. She has been raising her child for a long time and now another woman will simply take him away from her. Unfortunately, whenever the older woman tries to reclaim her son, the more both the son and her wife goes further away from her.
The Book of Ruth: Journey of Faith (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Fortunately, both women don’t need to fight for this important man of their lives and work for a better relationship instead. In her book, DeArmond uses practical advice and help from the Bible which can help create a harmonious relationship between the two women. She cites the story of Ruth and Naomi whose relationship lasted even though Naomi’s son has already passed away. By constantly relying on one another, Ruth was able to find employment and another husband as well.
As a mother of three sons, DeArmond added both her personal and practical knowledge about building the relationship between the two women into the book. The book covers various subjects such as the perceptions of both women, how strained communication affects their relationship and even the roles of both sons and fathers in their lives.
Does your mother love to read a lot? Are you a book lover yourself? Books can be the ultimate perfect gift that you can give to your mother. It is an awesome way to establish a deeper relationship with her, through a specific common interest. When you were younger, your mother might have spent endless hours reading you fairy tale stories from books. Your turn has now come to give some delightful books to your mother for her own reading pleasure. You can choose to spend a weekend together reading literature about mother-daughter relationships. You can talk endlessly about the books that you both love to read, and eat snacks together for some amazing quality time.
If you have been planning to gift a memorable book to your mother this coming mother’s day, it is possible that you are at a loss when it comes to choosing what is best. Here are some possible book titles that you can get at a local bookstore. They are all well written and will surely be appreciated by your mom:
Just in Case You Ever Wonder by Max Lucado: This is a touching tale which teaches children that not only their mothers love them deeply, God also loves them as well! The author, Max Lucado, also shares his personal anecdotes about raising his wonderful kids.
“Mama Do You Love Me” by Barbara M Joosse: This story tells of a little girl who once questioned her mother’s love. Eventually, she discovers that her mother’s love is truly unselfish. She realizes that even if she were a walrus or musk ox, her mother will give her unconditional love no matter what. This is a classic tale of how a child can question the love of a mother and end up realizing that it is indeed limitless.
Tell Me a Story, Mama by Angela Johnson: This well-written story is about a young girl and a mother who reminisces about the bedtime tales and memorable times they shared together.